The 30/30/30 Challenge is finished, and I’ve FAILED. Having said that, I HAVE FAILED in STYLE!
Why have I Failed?
I failed because I could not reach 30 people in 30 days, and I failed because I could not collect 30 contributions to my cause.
Why have I FAILED in STYLE?
For many, many reasons. Most importantly, I’ve failed in style because I have never evolved as a person in only 30 days as I have last month. The last 30 days have been truly transformational in many aspects. My main GOAL was to connect and inspire as many people as I could and I believe I was able to do that, at least I am certain I have with some. It’s impossible to measure what happened after the sessions were over, but I know positive actions were taken, and positive actions do inspire people. What if a little ripple was formed? How would I know? Only time will tell.
Lessons I’ve learned
– Most people are incredibly fascinating and only one hour listening fully and attentively to someone else is enough to realize that.
– We can learn heaps about ourselves when listening to someone else. I guess this proves (at least to me it does) that we are somehow connected, we are just to busy to see it.
– Relationships take time to Evolve, but listening fully and attentively to someone else surely speeds up the process.
– FEAR is our number one limitation. We must accept fear, observe it, and act anyway. Quieting the LIZARD BRAIN is essential if we want to try something new.
– De-cluttering life by focusing on the “FEW THAT MATTER” – few things we must do everyday – it’s a sure way to feel better about yourself, feel more energized, and contribute more.
– EVOLVING is a choice, people who make decisions EVOLVE faster than others (not that we are on a competition to see who evolves faster, this is just an observation). However, it’s important to re-assess decisions, adapt them and change when necessary.
– Start even if you are not 100% sure how everything is going to work. I made mistakes almost every week, but I adapted the plan after each mistake. So, set a date for “SHIPPING”, and GO FOR IT! The rest unfolds naturally.
– Goals which are connected to a bigger picture (something bigger than you) drive action almost effortlessly.
– Goals, when specific enough, are definitely helpful to sharpen our focus.
– Inflexible goals lead to frustration. We must be able to see the purpose beyond tasks and ask ourselves constantly: why am I doing this?
– Constructive criticism is awesome, always pay attention to it. People who care enough to give you constructive criticism are usually AWESOME too. However, any other form of criticism SUCKS big time, so please IGNORE it. ONCE AGAIN, IGNORE IT, and move on.
– People criticize what they can’t understand (maybe because of their own fears). People who criticize you the most, are usually the most miserable, as they can’t find a way around they own “view of the world”. Hence, they are limiting the amount of possibilities that come their way. If we want to EVOLVE, we must “OPEN OUR MIND” and try something new. It’s refreshing to do so.
To the critic who decries a project as a worthless folly, something that didn’t work out, something that challenged the status quo and failed…we don’t need your sharp wit or enmity, please. Our culture needs your support instead.” Seth Godin
– Someone else’s actions, sometimes reminds us that we are not acting. Thus, there was a feeling of awkwardness around some people. No big deal though.
– Accountability is a GLOBAL priority, people who commit to someone else will eventually deliver. People who can’t hold themselves accountable, are usually wasting everyone else’s time and, ultimately, are costing THE EARTH BIG TIME. I reckon that we must understand we are responsible for the state of the world today, and we must do something to evolve as individuals, so we can co-evolve as a society. In my opinion, the starting point is our community.
– People who have taken PERSONAL responsibility for what happens in their life seem to be happier than those who don’t.
– Karma is a true thing! My workload has increased. I have had more people contacting me is the last 30 days than ever before. 4 days after I’ve launched the challenge, there were 142 unique view on my website. More people Googled my name last month than ever before (funny feeling). There was a 85% increase in active visitors on my Facebook Page. 43% new “Likes”. 65% increase in user engagement. New TWITTER followers and connections made. New clients + referrals. AND, I feel good!
THE BIGGEST LESSON I’VE LEARNED WAS
We need as little as 30 days of commitment to change everything. If we can commit to the first 30 days, we will commit to 60, 90, 120 … guaranteed!
Did I really FAIL?
Well, this is a very subjective question.
In my opinion, FAILING is really an outdated / overrated concept. Whoever invented the concept, was going through some though times, I must say.
The way I really see it is:
We can only FAIL to ACT, but we NEVER FAIL if we understand a very simple, yet extremely important lesson, FAILING = FEEDBACK.
FEEDBACK allows us to EVOLVE. Hence, “failing” is an important part of LIFE.
If we benchmark “success” to rigid, narrow-minded outcomes, we’ll most certainly FAIL, period! Furthermore, we will BELIEVE that we have failed and, most likely, feel so frustrated that we will think twice before trying anything new.
I had 5 people who responded after my original post who did not book their sessions. Another 4 who cancelled and tried re-scheduling or changed their minds. I had a few logistic problems, as I was still training 4.5 days a week, what did not help me scheduling appointments. Summing up, if I extended the Challenge for another 15 days, I would most definitely have reached 30 people.
Ask anyone you know that achieved a BIG PICTURE goal if they have reached their specific target. You’ll find that most people (if not all people) say they have not. But they gain a lot more that they expected. They will also add that it may take a little longer than originally forecasted, but if you care enough about what you are set out to achieve, the results will surprise you TENFOLD.
So, for inflexible minds I HAVE FAILED big time. For anyone else, I KICKED ASS ! haha
Oohh, by the way, I’ve reached 15 people and did a total of 20 hours of Coaching. Still awaiting for some people to contribute to Kiva.org, as they’ve said they would. A total AUS$250.00 was lend (+ 2 LOANs I can’t track because they were not made via our team) to entrepreneurs in underprivileged countries. We helped people buy supplies, fuel, a cow, etc. See our team page HERE .
What is NEXT?
The “30/30/30 Challenge” is now re-branded to “30 Day Challenges”.
I’ll be setting up 30 days challenges to myself for as long as it is still fun, and for as long as I am still learning.
The next is Called “5 to 30 Challenge” and I’ll be launching it tomorrow (it’s late and I got to go to bed now).
Hope I am more “successful” this time.
Thanks for listening and PLEASE engage with me bellow (comments) or via FACEBOOK. I’d love to know what’s on your mind!