Sitting at home in desolation after I found out writing original content under pressure is extremely hard. I had a though time getting over the fact only about 40% of what I wrote was worth publishing. I am a firmly believer in focusing on strengths to compensate for weaknesses. So, I tried convincing myself I should quit this writing challenge, accept I am not a good at writing and focus on other areas I excel. “Coaching Eduardo, you are a good coach, you are not a writer”, I told myself. Complete nonsense as coaching and writing are both skills that can be learned.
Besides that, to make myself feel better, I begun questioning whether anyone would judge me based on what I write. Will my blog posts affect my reputation? Then, it struck me.“Wow”, I said it out loud, “what a whole bunch of crap! What a bunch of self defeating crap. Get over it!”. And just like that, I did it.
Isn’t it normal to experience frustration when facing challenges that aren’t easy to overcome? Don’t we all experience some level of pain and discomfort when we try to improve or master a skill? Of course we do! No wonder resilience and persistence are amongst the top attributes of high achievers.
One of my personal idols, Seth Godin, wrote a book about quiting called “The Dip”. Here is what he says:
Then you find yourself asking if the goal is even worth the hassle. Maybe you’re in a Dip – a temporary setback that will get better if you keep pushing. But maybe it’s really a Cul-de-Sac, which will never get better, no matter how hard you try”.
So what is it? Is it a Dip or a Cul-de-Sac situation? Should I quit? After all there is hardly any traffic on my Blog, so If I quit, not many people would ever know (just told myself to shut up again).
To conclude, NOPE! I ain’t quitting. There are more fundamental principles at stake. I am pushing a little more. I am sticking around for another 20 or so days to find out what is going to come out of this challenge. I will try finding a way to tap into the ‘good stuff’ inside my head. What’s the worse it could happen? But, I am most definitely focusing on quieting down those self-defeating thoughts and switching on the pleasure of writing, rather than the pain.
Hopefully, I’ll become wiser and learn when to stick out The Dip or I’ll learn to be a better quitter. After all, according to Seth Godin, winners are better quitters as:
winners quit fast, quit often, and quit without guilt-until they commit to beating the right Dip for the right reasons. In fact, winners seek out the Dip. They realize that the bigger the barrier, the bigger the reward for getting past it. If you can become number one in your niche, you’ll get more than your fair share of profits, glory, and long-term security”, he argues.
There is one certainty though, I am learning heaps!
Any insights on quitting or on not quitting?
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